By Talking about love as an adult is important. It’s important whether you’re selling or buying. I said before that it might not seem sexy, and I’m sorry, but selling and buying are not always glamorous.
Open Book
I am very open as a person, but it wasn’t always that way. I’ve struggled with my loved ones as an adult for years, and now I’m finally at a stage where I feel safe enough to talk about it openly. Here I am, this is me! I only feel good about it, I’m not ashamed or hiding who I am.
Selling as an adult and my loved ones
Selling has energized me in ways I can’t put into words, it has made me more confident, and my ability to shake things off has become easier over time, but some days are harder than others. Sometimes I take a break from a site and feel bad, then I come back and start comparing myself, or I forget about reading, and obsessive thoughts creep in. I can be pretty hard on myself. I think it’s just me, but deep down I know it’s not. Lately, when I’m struggling with adult love, it’s hard to shake it off and remember that I’m okay with who I am. I’m human, I’ve said it many times, and it’s true. I’d be lying if I said I don’t have bad days, but I also have a lot of great days. I still struggle with self-esteem and often fall into that trap of comparing myself, so I try my best to combat it with other things. I reread my reviews, I work on my lists, I chat with people, and sometimes I just go out and do things for myself. I know I talk a lot about not comparing, and I mean what I say, but I also know it’s not always easy.
I’m still sexy
My love as an adult doesn’t define me, it’s just a small part of me. I’m not going to let her steal the good parts of me. It doesn’t stop me from loving what I do or being sexy or interesting. And I’ve never thought of myself as weak or unworthy of anything but respect. My weaknesses are what make me human. Am I perfect? No! Am I someone else? No! I’ve learned to accept and embrace the things I once thought were “weird” instead. I embrace all of myself. Perfection is a myth.
Please Know
I am pretty open about my feelings, but I do so with good intentions. Never feel inferior when you are struggling with your adult loved ones. You are not weak, quite the opposite. Don’t hide, don’t dig into yourself. This subject is very close to home for me because I feel like it is overlooked. It is a misconception that we have to be fun-loving, exciting, and seductive all the time. We are all human!
Think outside the box!
We all have lives outside of this site, don’t forget that!! It matters! Just be kind and just think. There is so much stigma attached to what goes on here and there is still stigma attached to adult love. Yes, I know this is a buying and selling site, but for some, it is an escape from reality. No matter what it looks like to them, you should be respected if it isn’t.
Any advice?
Take care of yourself. That means eating foods you love, talking to friends and family, and seeing things you love. Take breaks when you need them. Anxiety, depression, etc. are lies! You are strong, you are amazing, you are not what these intrusive thoughts tell you. It’s ok! Write a list of things that help you, things you can rely on on your bad days.
